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26 October 2005 @ 08:02 pm
Trials with Our 9-Month Old  
Tyler has now become "attached" to Mommy, and there is nothing that Dad can do for him. Most of the time, he prefers Mommy, unless he's completely engrossed in playing with whatever toy has his complete attention at any given moment. I admit, it kinda hurts that I am not someone he considers to be able to provide him any comfort. I know he's just going through some sort of phase, but I am having a hard time dealing with his apparent dislike of my comforting techniques.

The other issue we're currently dealing with is that he is not fond of sleeping anymore these days. His naps rarely last longer than 30-minute duration (maybe 15% of the time, he has a longer nap than that - This is just based on the past week or so). And when he goes to sleep for the night, he doesn't usually stay down initially, thereby ensuring that we won't get to go to bed any earlier than 10:30/11:00pm... Which isn't too terribly late, but it would be nice to have an hour or so to ourselves before we go to bed, where he's already asleep. Anyone have any little ones who refuse to sleep? If so, you have any tricks on getting them to sleep, and more importantly, helping them to stay asleep?
Current Mood: rejectedRejected/Confused
kingfix on October 27th, 2005 03:05 am (UTC)
Oh yeah. Lots of experience with both problems. When Katie was getting near a year, I was probably the lowest person in her esteem, first was my wife, who has the breasts, then her grandma, who would let her get away with murder. I was an afterthought for her. But it gets better. Now that she is bigger and can go a whole day with out nursing, we get to do all sorts of fun stuff together, and I am high on the list again.
She also has NEVER been a good sleeper. Naps were often non-existant, and taking an hour or more to get her to sleep was a regular thing. She sort of grew out of that as well, although she now wakes up at 6:00am everyday, no matter what time she goes to bed. My best advice? Hmmm. I don't know. I do know that it did get better, but I don't envy you the wait. The only things that seemed to sort of work, though, were putting her in a sling for a long walk, or a short drive in the car (gas prices were a little lower then). Good luck!
webmartin28webmartin28 on October 27th, 2005 01:38 pm (UTC)
I was pretty sure it was a phase, about Tyler seemingly not wanting anything to do with me. As for the sleep thing, I wish the car ride would do the trick for him. He used to hate the car (believe it or not), and still does, but to a much lesser degree (although I'll find out for sure tomorrow night when I have to pick him up from his grandmother's house solo - For a 30-minute drive). The problem with the car, or any method really, is that he is such a light sleeper. The wrong step on our floor, producing the quietest creak, would wake him up. Okay, okay, it's not quite THAT bad, but it is close.

But thanks for the well-wishes - I do hope he snaps out of these two phases in relative short order.
kingfix on October 27th, 2005 03:03 pm (UTC)
Have you tried white noise? Like a fan or the TV or radio on static? To this day Katie sleeps with a fan on. She does the same thing, a small noise can wake her, but the fan drowns out most noises.
webmartin28webmartin28 on October 27th, 2005 06:35 pm (UTC)
We haven't ever tried white noise. The closest we've come is playing some type of classical music on the ol' DVD player, but maybe that's too stimulating for him. Perhaps we should try some of that, and see if that has any lasting effect. Thanks...
Corycsberry on October 27th, 2005 02:57 pm (UTC)
Let's face it, until men can lactate, mom is #1 in all bf'ing babies' lives.

My first son has been much more of a momma's boy than the second. It goes in phases and roles. Mom is the comforter and I am the plaything for the older son. While he can be soothed by me, he'll typically pick his mother over me.

When it comes to sleep, the older son rarely slept for more than 4 hours straight for the first 2 years of his life. Neither of the boys seem to care what time they go to sleep, they still arise around 6am most everyday, too. If you aren't getting to bed until 10-11pm, what time are you trying to put the boy down at night?

Do you use white noise or music? It helps to soothe the child and also covers up background noise that might otherwise wake him once asleep. My youngest has a tendency to sleep for 45-60 minutes initially then needs a 15 minute reprise of nighttime boob before going down again for 4-6 hours.
webmartin28webmartin28 on October 27th, 2005 06:40 pm (UTC)
We're actually trying to put him down starting at 7:30. Well, to clarify - We start his nightly ritual at 7:30 (bath, put on pajamas, and sit and read a book until he exhibits signs of sleepiness, and then feed until he goes to sleep). We're usually done with our ritual at 8:15, and wait on his cue to actually get him to sleep. He's just tricky. He rubs his eyes like he's tired, yawns like he hasn't slept in days, but just doesn't like to go to sleep, and will do everything he can to stay awake.

We'll try some white noise. We currently have tried some music with sporadic results (sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't). Thanks for the suggestion...