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25 March 2007 @ 09:18 am
After getting some good advice from fellow LJ's and some much needed reassurance that we aren't cruel parents we have come up with some strategies to keep ourselves from going insane.  

Ok so here's what we're doing about the nighttime issues:

Last night I made a little cooler bag with a cup of milk, a bottle with a little bit of milk/water, adn a cup of water.  
I also put a cup of water for myself to set an example.  
Todd gave him his bath and then he came in to read books with me as usual.
I turned on the ocean waves noise maker.
I told him about the bag, we talked about the sleep issues and
I offered him the 3 choices of drink.
Obviously he chose the bottle.
I drank my water. 
I Read him two books while he drank the milk.
I told him to give the bottle to me before he fell asleep, which he did.  
So he *can* go to sleep without it.
He woke up 2 times requesting milk.  
I gave him his bottle of water (as normal) in conjunction with offering the cup of water.  
I drank some water (yes I will be peeing a lot now).
When he ran out of water (because it leaked all over his bed) he crawled into our bed to snuggle.

All in all it wasn't a terrible night.  But I"m still not getting any good sleep.  It isn't his fault, it's just that once I am awake it takes me a looong time to get back to sleep.

Today we are going to pick out a calendar adn stickers.  We will choose a day  (June 1st is looking good) that we will remove all bottles from the house and give them to babies that need them.  Until we reach that day we will continue slowly encouraging a transition from bottle to cup and each morning he will place a sticker on the calendar for the night before and we will explain what it's for.  If it looks like we are way off the mark as we approach that date we will obviously push the date back.  I'm also going to make some more efforts to find bottles that don't freaking leak!  Or a sippy cup that is more similar to a bottle.  And we will talk more about other ways he can be close to me (as he associates the milk with mommy's milk and with me, so we are essentially breaking a "nursing" connection) and encouraging more snuggles and cuddles with books instead of milk.  Cross your fingers.

Thanks to all of you for support and help!

Those that don't understand teh nursing comment:  Due to some issues after his birth we did not nurse in the traditional manner, I pumped for 1 1/2 years and he has always been aware of where the milk came from and we created a very special "nursing" bond in that way. 
29 October 2006 @ 09:31 pm
This is probably being posted too late to help me for tomorrow morning, but it may still prove handy when Tuesday morning comes.

Nigel, my nearly-2yo, has the waking portion of his body clock pretty damn fixed. The beginning of the year, he was waking between 4:30-5:30am each morning. No matter how we tried shifting his sleep patterns, his body kept waking him at that time. When Daylight Savings came along, he was now waking between 5-6am. A tiny bit of a shift, but it would have been nice for a full hour shift. Today when picking the boys up from a sleepover at my wife's parents' house, I was told that Nigel was up at 4:30am.

I am trying to accept the reality that I'll likely be up around that time tomorrow morning. Are there any other dads out there who aren't morning people that can suggest something better than me putting a show on the TV while I half-doze next to him on the couch? We are trying to stay quiet since the 4 yo and Mommy are still sleeping (hopefully until 7-7:30).

I feel like such a bad parent when I do that for more than 30 minutes...but my brain just isn't functioning that well even after the 23ish minutes it takes to watch the typical Noggin show.

x-posted to Dad communities
27 August 2006 @ 08:21 pm
This was asked before and there was some interest, so I'm just double checking to see if we can get 10-12 ppl together for a Yahoo! Fantasy Football League.
Post here and I'll set up a league ASAP if there's enough interest!

Cross posted in bad_ass_dads
23 August 2006 @ 09:24 am
Attention all you dad's out there:  I made a mistake that I'll never make again.  While getting ready for work yesterday morning, I, at some point, was holding my son.  Just before leaving to drive to work, I started to think to myself, "Did he pee on me?".  Don't ask me how it could even be a question - Suffice to say, there was doubt in my mind that it happened.  I decided I was being ridiculous, and just went on my merry way.

Then, I'm sitting in my cube about an hour later, and all of a sudden, this odor hits me.  It was a smell like a Urinal Cake, a little past it's prime.  It didn't take long for me to recall my thoughts as I was leaving for work an hour before.  Immediately, I'm thinking to myself, "What can I possibly do about this?!  I can not go through the rest of the day, smelling like I have a problem going to the bathroom!"  I came to the conclusion that the only thing I could do effectively was to get in my car, and run to the nearest department store, and buy a new shirt.

Making this story even more embarrassing is that I had to tell both my manager, and my team lead what was going on.  I work in a pretty lax environment.  Usually, I can come and go as I please, as long as I put in my eight hours.  Unfortunately, I was working on a time-sensitive project, and I didn't want to cause undo stress if someone were to be looking for me while I was out.  So as I said, I had to tell those two people what I was doing, and why.  The jokes haven't started yet, but I'm expecting them.

Anyway, moral of the story is:  If you think your child has peed on you, don't assume anything.  Just change the article of clothing in question, and continue on your day, avoiding any embarrassment.

This concludes your public service announcement for the week.  You may now continue with your regularly-scheduled activities.
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22 August 2006 @ 04:38 pm
Saw your entry and had to join the group. Count me in.
08 June 2006 @ 03:49 am
Ok, maybe not exactly...

My gf tells me non stop I spend to much time on my yahoo fantasy teams...
I've been good since being a dad, only 4 NBA - 4 NHL and 2 MLB teams since I'm a dad!
One NHL league with some DC friends was a 1 point finish with another dad winning it. All other 10 are kidless, so we had a lot of fun trash talking that we beat them with 1 hand on the comp and one hand on the baby :D

Anyways, does anyone feel like partaking in an all-dad NFL league!?
I could set one up...

Have fun!

(cross postes in bad_ass_dads)
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28 May 2006 @ 05:13 am
hi everyone,i'm matthew,
my wife and i have an 11 month old son,noah. i was pretty excited to find this community because it seemed like there was no meeting place for fathers on here,or at least one where i'd feel comfortable. my wife really introduced me to the idea of attachment parenting,so i'm still reading a bit,putting into practice some things i've read about and observing my own natural instincts. i'm going to comment on some earlier posts and look forward to future communications with everyone,peace!
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28 November 2005 @ 10:20 am
I give Tyler - our 10-month old - his baths most of the time... I'd say about 95% of the time I do. He seems to love bath time so much, except for hair-washing time. Much as I try, I can't avoid water getting into his eyes when I wet his hair down to wash it. And I admit that when I'm rinsing the shampoo out of his hair, sometimes it gets on his face, and sometimes even in his eyes. Obviously, this is unintentional, and I feel so bad when it does happen.

He absolutely hates it (as anyone would), and he's actually starting to lose interest in bath time now. I'm concerned it's because he hates getting his hair washed. Does anyone out there know of any techniques to avoid getting water and shampoo going down his face, and getting in his eyes? My wife tried to show me the technique of using one hand as a "shield" just below the front hairline to keep the water from dripping down his face, but that just doesn't seem to work for Tyler and me. Any other methods that we can try? I'd hate for him to start hating bathtime because I just can't get this silly little hair-washing thing right.

Thanks for any advice in advance...
27 October 2005 @ 03:05 pm
Today my wife and I went to the midwife (my wife is 32 weeks pregnant), and our midwife loaned us a book on homebirth for kids (Welcome with Love). On one page there is a picture of the baby with the umbilicle cord still atached. My almost 2 year old daughter looked at the picture, then said "a snake with the baby?" We explained that it is an umbilicle cord, and that it feeds the baby, then told her that she once had one, and showed her her belly button, explaining that that is where the cord was, but that it fell off. She looked very concerned, then looked at the book, then at her belly button, then back at the book. "Straw drinking the babies' belly?" she asked. Not exactly we explained. So she looked back at the book, then back at her belly button. Then she turned the book upside down, looked at it some more, then back at her belly. It was one of the funniest things she has ever done. Now she breifly flips through the rest of the book, but always comes back to that page, where she stops and looks worried.
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26 October 2005 @ 08:02 pm
Tyler has now become "attached" to Mommy, and there is nothing that Dad can do for him. Most of the time, he prefers Mommy, unless he's completely engrossed in playing with whatever toy has his complete attention at any given moment. I admit, it kinda hurts that I am not someone he considers to be able to provide him any comfort. I know he's just going through some sort of phase, but I am having a hard time dealing with his apparent dislike of my comforting techniques.

The other issue we're currently dealing with is that he is not fond of sleeping anymore these days. His naps rarely last longer than 30-minute duration (maybe 15% of the time, he has a longer nap than that - This is just based on the past week or so). And when he goes to sleep for the night, he doesn't usually stay down initially, thereby ensuring that we won't get to go to bed any earlier than 10:30/11:00pm... Which isn't too terribly late, but it would be nice to have an hour or so to ourselves before we go to bed, where he's already asleep. Anyone have any little ones who refuse to sleep? If so, you have any tricks on getting them to sleep, and more importantly, helping them to stay asleep?
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